Domestication

So I have realized that I can be quite the domestic woman WHEN I want to be. I love to cook and bake, I'm always trying to move around things in my room for aesthetics. I can do all the homey, "wifely" duties [if i so choose to] but then I have my moments where I can be the dude. For example, I'm going shopping for a frying pan. Yes, a friggin frying pan. For those of you that knew/know me, I would never in a million years say something like that before. But then on the flipside I want my dinner cooked and brought to me tonight, while someone else cleans and irons for me while I watch TV. Then again who doesn't go through that or have those "nigga" moments? As women, we are expected to play certain roles and do certain things, sometimes its automatically assumed that we're supposed to know how to cook and iron, etc. Then if you don't know how to do some of that stuff, people look at you like "what? you're a woman, you're supposed to know how to or be able to do such and such" That look doesn't come from just men either, fellow females, you know you are guilty of it as well! When your friend from down the block says she can't boil water to save her life, you know you have that thought in the back of your head "well how she gonna expect to get a man like that?" or "didn't her momma teach her better?" or even "how does she survive like that?"

Now before you get on me, I am not trying to play like I'm a big feminist, because you all know as well as I do, that I am most definitely NOT. But I do go through moments where I think about things and wonder why it is, or how it has come to be. This is one of those things.

I'm basically trying to say that even in this "modern" day society, women are still expected to play the role of the care-giver and motherly figure that takes care of all the household duties [at least in most cultures] while the men are bringing home the bacon. Yet I find it's not that unusual nowadays for a man to know how to take care of his own household duties. [I give kudos to the men that know how to cook, do laundry, sew and all that stuff, because the Lord knows that I don't always feel like doing all that extra ish] Society still has these ideals and responsibilities placed on women, but its time to face it that a woman can also be the money maker, and the man can also be a care-giver. The roles have not been switched, more they have been equally divided.

Anyway that was random. Take it how you want it.

- L

Getting a Start on Things

So I am actually laying down the building blocks of my great plans to move forward in life and become an adult. I have written out several lists of things to accomplish in 2010. The first and most important being - to find a decent and stable job and save up enough money to move out. I have already made moves towards calculating a budget and seeing how much is necessary per month to afford living on my own. I have realized I would need a roommate and I have the perfect person in mind. No, it is not my boyfriend. That would be cool, but not for another few years.

I have also started looking into the small things I'd need for an apartment like furniture, food, small appliances, pots and pans, etc. Best believe I will be hitting up yard sales and the sidewalks during garbage days! No shame in my game, but I will be bumming it out for the first few months. If I visit the food pantry or raid your kitchen, don't be too mad at me. LOL

With the current job situation, knock on wood, it has been working out. I have gotten extra hours and days at work, and the holiday job I have will make up for the time I was suspended from work. I will use the money made from my holiday job to start up my savings. I will also not be going out anywhere for the rest of the year unless its free. No more buying unnecessary items. I have to keep it strict and watch what I spend and how I spend it. I will and can make this work.

Other than that, my man has met not only the family from the wedding that likes him, but my friends from work, who also approve and like him. They just said he's quiet, which is true, but he will warm up to them. We are very happy together. The communication is there, the understanding and the trust. I feel truly good about the way we got to know each other and start off the relationship. I mean the circumstances may not have been the best, but we actually got to know each other pretty well as friends first before getting into a relationship. Hard to believe, I know, especially coming from me. But anyway the point is, I see it all coming together and falling into place. So it does make me realize that you can't rush things, everything comes in time. I am grateful for that.

Until next time,

- L

Bragging Rights!

So my birthday was Sunday, I'm now 22 and officially a young woman. I actually have been thinking through things, such as tattoos and piercings and life goals, before making rash decions. Scary, I know. But anyway, October is my month long celebration, made possible by my wonderful BF! First he took me to the Blink 182 concert, then he went with me to MD for the wedding and everyone liked him, we had an awesome time together and spent an amazing (and also our first) weekend together. On my birthday weekend, he took me to the Heinekin concert to see Ludacris, Broadway to see the Lion King, and we had another interesting weekend together at a hotel and fell in love with 7 Eleven. And he got me my Coldstone's Red Velvet cake! The rest of the weekends are mine to spend with my friends and celebrate. LOL :-)

But the point is, he made sure I had a great time and enjoyed myself. I've never had anyone really go all out for me and treat me so special and not try to make it all about them. Yeah I know we're still fresh into the relationship, but damn it feels so good and he's already surpassed my previous relationships. Its still just the beginning, so I shall see and take it day by day. Not gonna go head over heels just yet. Lets see what that first year is looking like.

-L